WHAT – IF ? MAYBES,
COULD HAVE, SHOULD HAVE,
Like A coin , there are two sides to the above phrases
The first side: the negative emotions, focusing on how things could have been if they were any different. What you could have done… How you could have made a difference.
The second side, the positive lesson we can take from it: Seeing if there is an opportunity to fix things. The kind of failure that inspires you to do better the next time, to not repeat the same mistake again.
What I wish to share with you guys today, isn’t some newfound epiphany… but something that we all know… but never really gave much weight to it.
Few weeks back, I met a lady whotold me about her vacation to Andaman. I expected her to share some amazing and delightful adventures of her time there, but what she did share was the regret that she had to have chosen Andaman instead of somewhere like Europe.The reason for such a choice had an astrological twist. She didn’t own a passport, because she really believed in astrology and once an astrologer foretold her that she would never get an opportunity to go abroad. Just believing that to be the truth of her life, she just accepted that and never applied for a passport. And what did that leave her with? Regret of what could have been…
This is just a very small example of what most of us practice in our day-to-day life as well. Haven’t we done the same in our lives every now and then? Missed opportunities, or just turned the other way coz that was easier or coz that made more sense. We, as humans, have always prioritized others’ opinions more than our heart’s calling. Coz that makes more sense, coz deep down we’re afraid to know the consequences of following our heart.
Imagine yourself in a situation, where you heard that you only have a few days to live. How would you spend it? Are those days enough to do everything that you’ve always wanted to do??
Life is then put in perspective. You finally realize what matters and what doesn’t.
All these questions come to your mind: “Has your life been worth living? Were you happy? Did you spend your life doing what you love? With the people you love? Did you make the most of this terrifying but beautiful and totally messed up life?”
Do you even want to know the answers to these questions?
Life is too precious… to have regrets, to have questions, to waste time doing anything less than what makes us happy.
Yes, there will always be reasons to not do something. It will always be easier to turn your head the other way than to face the real thing. But along with that, there will also always be the regret of not doing it in the first place.
And “what if?” is the most painful thing that you are made to ask yourself.
Remember, failure always beats the hell out of never trying it in the first place.
Life will always, always.. always have it’s ups and downs. It will always have people who try to bring you down. It will always be another obstacle to go through. But never forget, that it will also always be beautiful. It will also always be the best thing there is… and it will also always be worth fighting for.
My advice, get out of your comfort zone… the sky is the limit. Do everything that you can and want to do. Try out all the flavours of ice-cream there is, take the weekend off and just do something crazy. Buy that little black dress that you’ve been eyeing for a long time but never bought it coz it was way above your payroll.
Because we only get one life. And it is our duty to live it to the fullest and the best way that we can.